Okay so I know my blog thus far has run along the lines of self-empowerment and being comfortable with yourself, but something has been irking my nerves. I’m fairly comfortable with my life at the moment and I’m having fun being single; so why is there always someone else who is not? I get questioned a lot about my lack of sex/love life but usually in a very casual manner. Every once in a while I end up talking to someone that is, for whatever reason, very upset by my current status. The other day I had a coworker that had no problem expressing his discontent with me, stating that I need to “put myself out there” and figure out what it is that I am doing wrong. I’m not sure why, but I was so embarrassed. Somehow, he had unknowingly made me feel like I had some sort of defect. He didn’t know. He wasn’t trying to. It wasn’t as if he had some vendetta against me and wished to see me fail. I spent the next few hours of my work shift trying to figure out why I was so bothered, because I was bothered. Extremely, almost to the point of tears thinking there was something I could fix to make myself more appealing to the male population in my area. On my drive home from work I had a moment of realization, some might say a small epiphany. The only thing wrong with me was the fact that I let my coworker get so into my head. I had spent an entire four hours freaking out over the opinion of ONE PERSON. And it’s not like it was my mother or my best friend; it was my coworker. I had allowed less than a paragraph of someone else’s idea of how I should be change my mood for the whole evening. So moving forward, I will be working towards not giving a single fuck about how others think I should be living MY life. It is mine for a reason and how I choose to compose myself is no one else’s concern. I will end this post with a quote that I hope to remember in trying moments in the future:
“I also came to realize that if people could make me angry they could control me. Why should I give someone else such power over my life?”
-Ben Carson
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